April 27, 2018


Many Faces of Depression:

“Melancholic” forms of depression are what people normally associate with depression. Here you lose pleasure in all or almost all activities.  It is hard to get out of bed and you have no energy. You may want to stay in the dark all by yourself with no motivation to go out and be with people.  You lose pleasure in almost all activities. Your depression is usually worse in the morning. Depression can also be experienced alongside “Anxious Distress”.  You might simply be watching TV or a movie and you feel unusually restless. It used to be a way to unwind, but now simply watching makes you feel uneasy. The agitation also makes it hard to get a good night’s sleep. When you can’t sleep, it makes days long and your nights even longer.  A vicious cycle continues from day to night. Another symptom of depression is something called “psychomotor retardation” where simply filling out a job application or very basic skills feel almost impossible.

This is not the real you. This is not how you were designed to live. This is the face of depression speaking.

Maybe you or your loved ones have felt some of these things. Maybe you feel terribly alone because no one understands you. You are longing for a way out, but don’t know where to begin. Maybe you don’t even care anymore if you live or die.

Hope for Overcoming Depression:

A good counselor can help you sort through your problems and clear your mind. You can finally get relief from the pain of depression. Can you imagine no longer having to deal with all these terrible feelings you experience daily. Can you see the day you wake up refreshed, feel motivated to get the day started, and actually look forward to something that provides purpose? The even better news is that a highly skilled therapist can reduce or eliminate depression about 90% of the time.

I’ve Tried Counseling in the Past, but it Did Not Work:

Maybe you’ve tried counseling in the past, but it did not work for you. The reason why therapy fails can be due to a number of reasons. In almost all cases, it is not that your depression is a hopeless case, but the problem be caused by a lack of feeling a connection with your therapist.  You might have felt they were nice, but not helpful.

We’ve known people who have been to 4 or 5 counselors, but did not give up. They kept trying and had bad experiences. However, their persistence paid off.  They eventually found a therapist they really liked, felt it was a good fit and they were able to overcome their depression.

Don’t give up! The success rate for healing depression is amazing. Another complicated factor of counseling is that if you use an insurance therapist, he or she is typically limited to about 8 sessions and can only use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). While CBT has shown to be effective, it does not work for everyone.

Another reason why therapy fails is because there are different skill levels of therapists. Some therapists are highly skilled and have a natural gifting for therapy, and other’s do not. It does not mean that the therapist is no good, but it means that the therapist is limited on who they can actually help.

Why Can’t I Just Talk to a Friend?

People, who have decided not to seek treatment, will often talk to friends and family. What we found out is that most people do not understand depression, especially the ones who have never experienced it. So when you talk to them, they actually make the problem worse by saying things like “Don’t worry about it” or “I went through that to, but I just had to tough it out.” You need empathy, not judgement. As depression gets worse, it can lead to wanting to give up and feeling hopeless.

Give us a Call and Get a Free Consultation:

If you are feeling nervous about getting started, just give us a call. You can contact us on the phone for free with no obligation. If you’d like, we can even meet you in person here at our office in Anaheim Hills to answer any questions you might have.